From A Park Bench Covered In Bird Shit.
Subject: How To Step Off The Hamster Wheel & Live A Better Life.
Recently I took a road trip back home to see the family, eat some good food, lift weights with my little brother, and decompress from my adventures in the mountains.
It was mighty refreshing too.
Just me, my thoughts and 600km of tar road.
Thoughts of the year that has passed, and the year that is to come – filled my mind.
I’ve always loved long road trips because it’s while I am on the road that great insights and ideas come to me
Now it was almost dark when my truck pulled into the driveway, and I was absolutely buggered.
Before leaving where I currently live, earlier that morning – I had completed a two hour arm workout in the gym: heavy barbell curls, heavy french presses and a series of Tricep extensions and curl variations.
I left everything in the gym, which is the way you gotta train if you wanna be somebody with a body.
So that night at home, I didn’t do much: just ate a big meal, relaxed on the couch with my mum and chatted for a few hours.
Home hasn’t changed that much, and it never does change much.
Home will always be home.
Home for me is a small town in the middle of nowhere.
A small town filled with a lot of small people, who care more about what everyone else is doing, than what they’re doing with their own lives.
Everybody always knows what everybody else is doing, and it’s just a big circle of bullshit that gets nobody anywhere.
Then there’s the local dropkicks who do nothing but drink, smoke weed, and live off welfare.
Just go for a quick stroll when the sun begins to set and you’ll see a disco biscuit chewing cunt on every street corner, looking for something to steal, break or take a shit on.
Boy, am I glad that me and my crew got out.
Despite where it is though, and who lives in it – man, it’s home to me and a part of my heart will always be out there, amongst the dead tree’s and red dirt.
So after a long sleep, day two at home was pretty damn good.
In the morning I hit a chest workout with my brother, before heading out to a large hill that provides a great view of all the nothing that surrounds the town.
We stayed out there for at least an hour talking about life, money, martial arts and world travel.
After our chat we headed home and cooked up some delicious fried chicken.
Then we finished the day with a glass of whiskey and some free-styling on the guitar.
Here I am below jamming out on a Yamaha FG800, which is a fantastic sounding guitar, but very tough on the fingers:
Fast forward about 13 hours and I was in my little sisters room, saying goodbye.
So I gave her a hug, and said goodbye.
But then I looked up and glanced around her room for a moment.
Now my little sister is built like Rhonda Rousey, with a take no shit and live life to the fullest attitude – so every wall in that room is covered in beautiful artwork and inspirational quotes, which she has produced herself.
Right in the middle of one of the walls, was a particular quote that stood out to me.
“If not now, then when?”
I smiled when I read it, then I left.
Rolling out of town and onto the highway, I thought about that quote and I recalled a memory from about three months earlier.
I was cooking wood-fired pizza, grooving out to some Marvin Gaye, and listening to the fella I worked with, talk about how he was going to get back in shape, find some work he enjoyed more and just build a better life for himself in general.
I said what I always say when people talk about getting better:
“Good shit, my man. But when is all this going to happen?”
He paused, then said:
“Well, I don’t know. When I have more time, and when I’m ready I guess.”
So I nodded, then said:
“Ah, ok. Better continue getting ready then.”
Now I left that place and moved on a while ago, to become a professional bartender and prepare for my next great adventure in 2020.
But I’m willing to bet my enormous balls that this fella is still there: not hitting the gym, not looking for something better and not building a better life for himself.
How do I know this?
Well I know how people work, because I know how I work.
Once they get comfortable they settle.
And once they settle, they fear change.
So they stay stuck in lives that are well below what they could be living – just like this fella and just like all you fucking pussies who keep talking about everything you are going to do in the future.
Here is the bad news:
Your future is going to be exactly what you have right now, unless you change your life right now.
Stop thinking that a time is gonna come when everything will get better.
Stop thinking life is gonna cut you a break.
Life’s not gonna do anything for you while you’re standing around with your dick in your fucking hand.
It’ll just pass you by, and time will just move forward, day by day – moment by moment.
So if you want a better future, you need to build a better now, right now.
The time for change and growth is now – not when you’re ready for it.
Most people on planet earth are exactly like the fella I was working with: all they fucking do is talk about what they are going to do with their life.
But two hours later when they are at home, feeling less motivated and less inspired – they sit their lazy asses on the couch and do nothing.
They are dreamers who prefer comfort over growth.
They are not doers who prefer growth over comfort.
And that’s exactly why everything they talk about will remain nothing more than an idea.
It will not become their reality.
Do yourself a favour real quick:
Think about what you really want to be doing and ask yourself – if not now, then when?
Be honest and have a good hard think.
Think about the time that has already passed you by.
Think about how every time you say you’re going to do something, you somehow end up off track and doing something else.
Think about how you will feel if you reach the end of your life having done nothing but the same silly bullshit every single day.
Have you ever heard the following lyrics?
I believe I can see the future, because I repeat the same routine.
I think I used to have a purpose, but then again, that might have been a dream.
I think I used to have a voice, now I never make a sound.
I just do what I’ve been told, and I really don’t want them to come around.
Oooo I feel a tingle in my nutsack when I read those words.
That used to be my life, man.
It remained as my life until I grabbed my balls and walked off into the sunset to live my life exactly how I wanted to live it.
I remember being stuck on the hamster wheel that most people spend their life on.
The hamster wheel where surviving is the focus, instead of building an awesome life.
How did I get off it?
Well I just stepped off for a moment to catch my breath, then I looked at all the other idiots running on it like idiots, and I decided that I was done running on it like an idiot with all the other idiots.
You see, life is nothing more than the product of the choices you make.
The hand you’ve been dealt, it don’t matter – only your choices matter, only making the most of what you’ve got, matters.
So shut the fuck up and stop complaining about what happened ten years ago because it’s over now and nobody gives a damn anyway.
Here’s something to make you think:
Your life expands and contracts in direct proportion to the quality of the choices you make and the actions you take on a daily basis.
Thinking in this way – tomorrow is not the future.
It’s just the outcome of the choices you make and the actions you take today.
Make A Choice + Take An Action = Create An Outcome.
If you choose to be a fucking pussy and remain in your comfort zone at your shitty job, because you are afraid of what will happen by quitting – your outcome will be remaining exactly where you are, doing exactly what you are doing.
But if you make a different choice, the choice to do something different – well shit, you’ll probably get something different, friendo.
18 months ago I wanted to become a Professional Blog Artist and Bartender so I could spend my time travelling the world while having sex with girls of every nationality.
So that’s exactly what I decided to do.
Now, one year later – I’ve built the foundation of a kick ass blog, I’ve learnt the basics of bartending and I’ve had my Johnson kissed by a handful of pretty ponies (I am terrible, I know).
This outcome is pretty close to what I initially decided upon achieving, which is why it’s important to know exactly what you want.
Sometimes I like to think about what would have happened if I never made the decision to change things for the better and pursue what I wanted.
The answer I always arrive at is rather simple: nothing would have happened.
What kind of fucking idiot expects their life to change from doing nothing?
Let me tell you who: the person I used to be.
If I didn’t get off my hamster wheel, I would have just kept doing what I was doing, getting what I was getting, and feeling what I was feeling.
But I did get off, and it was extremely easy to be honest – all I had to do was make the decision to get off and do something else.
Somebody with common sense once said:
“If you want things in your life to change, you’re gonna have to change things in your life.”
And so now I’m sitting in a park drinking a cup of really shit coffee, watching baby ducks waddle around my feet and writing this piece of great work for you to enjoy.
There ain’t no place I’d rather be, either.
So just remember my friend, you’ll be dead in the blink of an eye.
Time goes by quick.
One moment you’ve got plenty of time left, and suddenly you’ve got no time left – then you find yourself looking back at how life just slipped through your fingers, while you were thinking about everything you were going to do, but never did.
I’ve been fortunate enough to see the pain of regret in the eyes of people who wasted their life chasing the wrong things, even people with all the money in the world.
Now, seeing this taught me something – something important.
So listen very carefully to the following words because they may change how you look at your life:
When all is said and done and you’re closing in on the great unknown, it ain’t how much dough you’ve made that matters – it’s the experiences you’ve had, the people you’ve touched, the love you’ve felt, the memories you’ve made and the things you’ve created with the aim of helping another person, that really matter.
That’s what life is about, ok?
It’s about living so deeply and so fully, that when you go out, you literally have nothing left within you – no desire, no energy, no regret, nothing.
So get living amigos, and ask yourself:
If not now, then when?
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